Saturday, May 4, 2019

Why are you Single?

Why are you still single? A commonly asked question to a single woman at her 30s like me. Is it me minding my own business? Or them concerned about my ovaries. To answer your queries, look around you.  Are you keen enough  to be sensitive and answer the question you’ve been asking about women being single. 

Here is why: I grew up seeing my mom and dad build not just a house but a HOME to call their own. The relationship built by them, despite their differences worked because of so much love, understanding & putting God at the center of their relationship. Is this even present in our generation today? Be sensitive. OBSERVE.

Maybe I am afraid to fall in love again. There is a saying “No man is an island.” But what if on that  island, a man needs another man and not a woman? I am gender sensitive and I respect all creation but it’s really hard to find a real man who will love and protect you for the rest of your life.  A ratio of 2:10 two out of ten men is real & needs a real women in their life with good intentions and good heart. To all men, are you one of them? Be sensitive. OBSERVE. 

I don’t want to be naive. But let us talk about Jesus. I respect all religion & I have been into relationships having different faith.  And yes, the devil works silently to destroy a union. Couples forget that they need God and go back to their values all over again. I myself may not be perfect, but if two persons do not share the same values and believe in God despite their difference in belief and faith, a relationship won’t work. I did not dream to be immoral & hate life because of love. Be sensitive. OBSERVE. 

I won’t deny that I set my standards so high that a man even told me to lower it. I am sorry but “Desperate times call for desperate measures”, is not my motto in life. I know what I want and who I need in life. I am not afraid to be single at this age if the man I am with is not responsible & matured enough to face all the struggles in this world. I won’t take any drastic  measures in exchange for my future, because I want to have a happy family of my own. What is wrong with it anyway? Be sensitive. OBSERVE. 

And please don’t pity me. I love my life. It may be impossible for me to love today, because of these few reasons.. BUT with you being silent & minding your own business will help me be at peace. I have my own dreams and prayers for the BEST is yet to come. Thank you for giving time about the situation that I am not totally worried about because you are worried about it. I hope by these, I have answered the questions that is not my problem but yours.  I am flattered. Be sensitive. OBSERVE.